Comments on: Venting on Venting http://chobas.com/blog/2007/01/05/venting/ Just another WordPress weblog Mon, 21 May 2012 17:41:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: mindy http://chobas.com/blog/2007/01/05/venting/comment-page-1/#comment-3794 mindy Fri, 05 Jan 2007 21:27:29 +0000 http://chobas.com/blog/2007/01/05/venting/#comment-3794 i agree with the Jenn's comment. Also - in my head it's usually worse than it really is...by getting it out and talking through it, I realize it's solvable - it's not this big problem that overwhelms me - it's something that I can solve piece by piece...but I don't realize that until I get it out and put words to the problem. A listening ear is an amazing counselor. Sidenote: I think part of the reason it doesn't make sense is a gender thing. Men generally like to fix things - nothing wrong with that - the way God made you. So when women (generally) vent, they want that listening ear but men have a hard time not wanting to solve it because why else would you talk about it? "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" talks about that some. i agree with the Jenn’s comment. Also – in my head it’s usually worse than it really is…by getting it out and talking through it, I realize it’s solvable – it’s not this big problem that overwhelms me – it’s something that I can solve piece by piece…but I don’t realize that until I get it out and put words to the problem. A listening ear is an amazing counselor.

Sidenote: I think part of the reason it doesn’t make sense is a gender thing. Men generally like to fix things – nothing wrong with that – the way God made you. So when women (generally) vent, they want that listening ear but men have a hard time not wanting to solve it because why else would you talk about it? “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” talks about that some.

]]> By: Jenn http://chobas.com/blog/2007/01/05/venting/comment-page-1/#comment-3793 Jenn Fri, 05 Jan 2007 16:05:26 +0000 http://chobas.com/blog/2007/01/05/venting/#comment-3793 venting is such a common way of dealing with things because it's a way of actualizing the problem. if you keep it inside, you're all bottled up and it builds and builds. just by talking to someone (it's better in person, but through a blog is good too), it forces you to put in words what you're going through. it makes it real instead of just a jumble of thoughts/emotions. also, often venting leads to problem solving... instead of ruminating aimlessly, it gets it out there where you can do something about it. venting is such a common way of dealing with things because it’s a way of actualizing the problem. if you keep it inside, you’re all bottled up and it builds and builds. just by talking to someone (it’s better in person, but through a blog is good too), it forces you to put in words what you’re going through. it makes it real instead of just a jumble of thoughts/emotions. also, often venting leads to problem solving… instead of ruminating aimlessly, it gets it out there where you can do something about it.

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